You are...

a real-life kewpie doll,

a Campbell's soup-label kid,

a 1950's character named Buzz or Biff,

an aspiring engineer,

a ham actor in search of an audience,

the all-American boy next door,

a little devil in denim and dimples.

Brad's Version of Blogapalooza

He can have his sweaty bike rides, sore muscles & sharing a bathroom with 5 guys...

I'll take dressing up, eating out and chatting with the ladies any day.

But, boy, we were sure glad to get him home in one piece...

Go Jazz!

Aside from my kids' little leagues and BYU football, there is only one team I have ever really loved.

And, if it weren't for a few special people, I probably wouldn't even know a free-throw from a rebound.

First, Grampa Jiggs and Grama June, pioneer Jazz fans. They always had season tickets and in an effort to spend "quality time" with the grandkids, took us to the occasional game.

I had no interest in basketball, but loved the VIP treatment. Staying up past my bedtime, eating popcorn, and falling asleep to Hot Rod Hundley's voice on the ride home.

Somewhere along the line, I picked up the basic rules of the game. Names like Darrell Griffith, Adrian Dantley, and Thurl Bailey became familiar. I sang and cheered along with the live Jazz band that played in the Salt Palace.

But I didn't fall in love with the Jazz until a certain point guard from Gonzaga came along...

Oh, Johnny boy!

It broke my heart when I learned he wasn't a Mormon and that (sob) he was already married!

Still, the Jazz games became a little more personal for me whenever #12 was on the court.

Once, my little sister, Heidi, and I actually got to sit in Grampa's coveted courtside seats, right under the basket. (The Jazz must have been playing some loser team that night.) We had our pom-poms and our popcorn and were just sitting wide-eyed watching the pre-game warmups, when one of the players dropped the ball. It landed at Heidi's feet, so she picked it up and tossed it back to the player. He winked, smiled and bounced it back to her! The two of them played catch for a few minutes, then he waved and went over to the coach.

Imagine our surprise when we learned that this was no ordinary player. It was...

Karl THE MAILMAN Malone!

(He could deliver our letters anytime....)

Jazz games are some of my most vivid memories. One of the top ten happiest days of my entire life was sitting beside my husband watching the Jazz play against the Denver Nuggets in a play-off game. The place was full of celebrities and the excitement was tangibly electric. It was the closest I ever came to feeling illegally intoxicated.

In contrast, the last game I attended was just a few days after Grama June's funeral. I was Grampa's date to the Delta Center. Realizing Jiggs would never again sit beside his courtside sweetheart in this, their home away from home, made it tough to cheer through the tears.

I live across the country now. Stockton and Malone have long-since retired. The Delta Center has a new name and I don't even know any of the current players. But when I heard about last night's win, I got just a little flutter in the pit of my stomach.

And so, Wednesday night, I'll tune in to watch my Jazz.

And I really hope they win.

For Stockton, Malone, Horny Hornacek, Big T, Mark Eaton, AD, Frank Layden, Hot Rod, June and Jiggs.

And for a Utah girl, far from home, staying up past her bedtime, eating a big bowl of popcorn.

Anyone Else Out There...

...get up late this morning? ....raise your voice at the breakfast table? ...wonder how many more days til Daddy comes home? ...use gentle force to get kids on the schoolbus? ...ignore a pile of dirty laundry? ...snag your stockings? ...smear your liquid liner? ...pawn your youngest two off on an unsuspecting friend? ...break the speed limit? ...run through the rain? ...slide (panting) into the school cafeteria?

All so you could burst into tears at

the First Grade Mother's Day Tea?

(Wasn't it the cutest?!)

p.s. Did you also have difficulty finding yourself in portrait form?

Happy Mother's Day, Everybody!

(Here's hoping that someday we'll all be as pretty as our portraits...)

Yada, Yada, Yada...

Ordered a big salad lately? Worn a puffy shirt? Purchased a babka or a mansierre?

If so...you are probably living in the past. The last new Seinfeld episode aired 10 years ago this month!

I don't know why this fact makes me feel older than my fast-approaching 20 year reunion.

Maybe because Brad and I started watching Jerry, Elaine, Kramer and George during our poor student/newlywed days. The Fab Four gave us something funny (and free!) to look forward to each Thursday night. They became our friends, and over the years, have been well-represented and oft-quoted at all extended family gatherings.

Seinfeld & Co. was the last cast of characters I really cared about. Soon after it went off the air, we became parents and our tv viewing habits changed dramatically. Sure, now I enjoy Top Chef and Dancing with the Stars, but until Padma says, "No soup for you!" or Edyta dances with Elaine's spastic kick, they will always pale in comparison.

Do you miss them too? What's your favorite episode?

Seven Questions...Living Happily Ever After

Meet Lisa-Marie. One of the cutest redheads I know! I love her happy personality and optimistic take on family life. In a world filled with whiners and husband-bashers, I think it's refreshing to hear from a woman who thinks her husband is a real-life Prince Charming.



Here's proof that happy endings aren't just for fairy tales...



1. What are your top three tips for keeping a marriage strong while raising young children?



#1 --Team work. Kendon and I don't believe in parenting 50/50. We believe that we both need to give 100% to the raising of our children. Raising kids is a tough job (THE toughest job) and if we aren't working as a team then we are working against each other, not for each other, and that never works; it only causes contention.



On those same lines: be on the same disciplining page. Kendon and I have differing ideas on how to raise kids. I think all spouses do. However, we both have the same goal in mind. We want happy, healthy, well mannered, children. We have found that disciplining our children works better when we find a plan that we both feel comfortable with and are committed to that can help us reach that end result by working TOGETHER. Just last night I checked out a Love and Logic book that Kendon and I are reading together as a refresher course. It is much easier to have a strong marriage if you aren't battling over how to raise the kids. Cause that could be a constant fight.



#2 --Be together. While raising little kids it can be tough to get much alone time. So, instead, we spend a lot of time together as a whole family. We go on dates and take the kiddos with us. It might seem easier to just stay home, but we have found that once you make the effort to get out and do something fun, it is always well worth it. Just because you have little ones around doesn't mean you can't have a good time. Of course, we do get out and have dates with just the two of us, because that is very important as well.

#2 1/2 --Keep Your Own Interests. As strongly as we feel about being together, we feel just as strongly about getting some time to ourselves. Just because you now hold the titles of spouse and mother, does not mean you need to lose the title of SELF. I am a much better parent and spouse when I have had some time to do something for me. If you never give time and rejuvenation to yourself, pretty soon you will run out of time and energy to give your spouse as well.
#3 --Learn to Read Between the Lines When Kendon does the dishes after dinner, I know that he is saying, "Thank you for taking the time to make a yummy meal." When he puts the kids to bed at night I know that he is saying, "I know you've had a long day and I want to help out." When he takes the time to be with his family and incorporates us into his hobbies, I realize that he is saying, "I love you and I like to be with you." When he gives me Mommy breaks, I understand that he is saying, "Your job is tough and I appreciate what you do."

Kendon's actions speak louder than words. This is the language he speaks. I have learned to understand Kendon's language and I am learning to speak it was well. I would be very remiss if I didn't appreciate his actions and only expected words. Every spouse has their own language. It is important to learn how they speak and to communicate that way.

I know you said three reasons and I've already given you three and a half, but here's one more. It is short and sweet but I believe it with all my heart.#4 --The family who prays together, stays together!

2. How have you managed to successfully balance your husband's personal interests with your own? What have you had to sacrifice? Was it worth it?

I think in order to balance each other's interests, you have to have an open mind and be willing to try new things. For example, I never would have thought that I'd enjoy hunting, but I gave it a shot because that is an important part of Kendon's life. While, the kill is NOT fun for me, getting to spend time one on one with Kendon, in nature, watching him feel so passionate about something is very fun.

I think that Kendon has sacrificed much more than I have. He was a bachelor until he was 30 years old. Giving that up was a sacrifice in and of its self! He has given up many of the activities that he loved in order to spend more time with his family. He also gave up a career that he loved as a cop to find a career that is more family oriented. I think that having a willing heart to sacrifice can create great strength in a marriage. When you sacrifice something of importance to you for a cause as great as family, you always come out on top!

3. What would be your dream date with your husband?In the morning we would go hiking in a beautiful spot called Darby Canyon. We would take a yummy lunch (croissant sandwiches would be divine! Or something yummy I don't have to make. Millhollow sandwiches would do.) and eat it under the waterfall. We wouldn't rush the hike back and would take our time to explore and enjoy nature.

On our way home we would go to Heise Hot Springs and soak in the hot tubs. We would stay til dark, cause it's much more relaxing and romantic under the stars. Before heading home we would get Chinese Take out, some really yummy ice cream and a video. Actually, instead of going home, we would go stay at a hotel with theme rooms. I've always wanted to stay in one of those. So romantic. (Unless you stay in the Star Wars room...No thanks.)

4. What is your favorite no-cost (or really really cheap) date with your husband?

Homemade picnic and the outdoor archery range. This will be even more fun this summer now that I have a bow too!

5. Who are your happy-marriage role models? What have you learned from them?

I am so blessed to have so many GREAT role models. I have a very close relationship with all of my grandparents and they have taught me so much through their examples. My Grandpa Bigelow just passed away last October. I miss him dearly but my grandma feels lost without him. He was her other half. They were married for nearly 60 years and they did everything together. When my grandpa was sick in the hospital my grandmother was so sweet and gentle and kind with her husband. She would say, "It is so hard to watch your sweetheart like this." I remember thinking that I was blessed to witness these special moments of tenderness between my grandparents during their last moments together. Then I realized, I have been watching them treat each other this way my whole life. I had never seen my grandfather treat my grandmother with anything but utmost respect, EVER.

My mother's parents are also celebrating their 60th anniversary this year. What great examples they have all been. They taught my parents what makes a happy marriage, and they have in turn shown Kendon and I. What a great legacy my grandparents have created for generations to come!

6. How do you keep your marriage a top priority in the hecticness of childrearing, housekeeping, church work and other personal responsibilities?
Take time every day to ensure that your spouse knows you love and appreciate them. This will be manifest in every relationship differently. Find out what makes your spouse smile and do it every day.

7. What advice will you give your daughters when they meet Mr. Right?

WORK! If you want a happy marriage there is work involved. You don't get happily married and expect it to magically stay that way. Life gets in the way. Everyday you have to deposit something positive into your marriage bank account or, before you know it, you'll be bankrupt. I believe that you could marry almost anyone and be happy if you are willing to put in the effort. (I don't recommend this, I'm just saying....) Anything worth having is worth working for.

Thanks, Lisa-Marie! You are soooo right!

Check out Lisa-Marie's happy thoughts here...I love her romantic tribute to her parents today!

For Your In-Flight Entertainment

So my weekend was simply fabulous. Women's Conference did not disappoint. Mom's talk was a highlight. She was wonderful (I knew she would be)! I loved hanging with the women in my family and meeting so many old/new friends at the 1st Annual Blogapalooza Party! (Click here and scroll down a few photos to see me and the ladies at my table....thanks, Jill!) It was such a fun night.

Besides all the learning, listening, talking, giggling, eating, shopping and primping, I did a lot of reading. Mostly on the plane trip. Heaven!

Here are my in-flight recommendations:
Julie and Julia by Julie Powell is a real life story about living in New York, cooking and blogging all about it. Of course, I loved it. Also, it's being made into a movie with Amy Adams and Meryl Streep playing the Julia Child role!
Love Walked In by Marisa de los Santos is another book that reads like a movie...set in my new hometown. This is one of those improbable fairy-tale type stories that require suspended reality, but make for great chick flicks! Very very cute.
And, last but not least, What Would Jackie Do? by Shelly Branch & Sue Callaway. Who isn't fascinated by Jackie O? This book uses historical research to dissect Jackie's style, diet, parenting and decorating strategies --then applies them to life in the 21st century. A little light, silly fun. Perfect for a cross-country flight. (Don't worry Mom, I already mailed it back to you!)

And, now my plane has landed. Time to face reality...

Afterglow

I am basking in the sunset of a fabulous three days.
Thanks to everyone who made it so special!
I'll be replaying the memories over and over for many months to come.